Public Speaking Tip: Let's Propose A Toast!

Many people have the misconception that toasting is an art form that only the most eloquent  are qualified to lead.  Naturally one will be hard pressed to find willing volunteers for this seemingly monumental task.

However giving a good toast is not that hard, as long as you adhere to some simple common sense and logic.

There are quite a few misconceptions about performing a toast such as:

• It is for formal occasions only.  This couldn’t be further from the truth.  You can offer a toast on any occasion for any reason.  It can be as simple as the rare moments when a few friends can spend some time together over coffee, for instance is good enough.

• You need to use very big and formal words for a toast.  Again, this is not necessarily true.  It all depends on the occasion.  If like above, it’s just a casual get together amongst friends, then there is no need for any formality or pretentious big words.  You may need to use a different tone for formal occasions, though.

• You need to give a speech.  No, a toast is not necessarily a speech.  A sentence or two may suffice, provided they sum up the occasion well.

Having said that, here are some best practices when asked to do a toast.

1) Quality Over Quantity

Unlike other types of speeches, people normally prefer a toast to be short and sweet.  If you feel like you have to say a few words, you may do so, but don’t go tell an epic tale.  Be mindful of the time you take.  Your toast could be part of the agenda for a long night with other activities coming up.  Going over the time allowed will delay the program for the night.

2) Keep Your Focus

When you are asked to lead a toast, it is most likely in honor somebody else.  Don’t forget that as you get up to speak.  Most of us tend to work our own personal stories into a speech, and while that is fine, in this case, you need to do it in a way that shines light at this particular person.

3) Keep the Ribbing Tasteful

There are occasions where it is perfect fine to make fun at somebody during a toast, the most common being at a wedding and you're the bestman or bridesmaid.  In these cases, you are normally very close to the bride or groom.  Just remember to keep the jokes tasteful.  You are speaking amongst the happy couple’s family and close friends.  Don’t say things that you yourself don’t want the world to know.  How you do the toast is a reflection of your own self so you want to keep it tasteful and dignified.

4) Practice Makes Perfect

A toast is one occasion where you cannot just wing a speech.  Therefore, prepare ahead of time if you can and practice till you get it right, in terms of remembering everything you want to say and how you say it as well.

This is the year end and there will be many parties and celebrations coming up.  So take the opportunity to raise your glass and toast to everything that you want to commemorate.

Here’s to all the that we have achieved in the past year and looking forward to more successes in the new year.  Cheers!

Short, precise and to the point.

Have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

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